ASK MISH

DEAR MISH: What are some things I can do to help think more positive about hard situations? :)

DEAR SMILEY:

❁ Trust in yourself and the universe that everything will be okay- Know that things aren’t happening TO you, instead they are happening FOR you- this one’s very powerful.

❁ Avoid negativity at all costs- If you’re already feeling low about a situation, it can be extra tough listening to people who are unknowingly fuelling the fire. If this is the case, politely let them know that you’re not in the right mindset to talk about this topic right now and ask to re-visit it during another time.

❁ See what you can learn- View your challenges as something that is here to teach you a lesson, in order to grow stronger & evolve into the person you’re meant to be.

❁ Separate your emotions from your identity- For example, saying “I AM anxious” disempowers you. So instead say “I am FEELING anxious right now” this way you’re acknowledging this temporary emotion but not allowing it to hold power and become a part of your identity. Psst, all feelings are temporary.

❁ Be present and find reasons to be grateful for- eg. Close your eyes and feel the sun kiss your skin, “Thank you for this beautiful sunshine.” Pause and look down at your food, “Thank you mother earth for providing me food to nourish your body.” Passing your exam, “Thank you amazing brain for absorbing information” Standing up for yourself, “Thank you for giving me the strength and courage to speak up.”

With Love, Mish xo

DEAR MISH: What are some things I can do to stay positive and motivated during these tough times?

Thank you. xx

DEAR POSITIVE AND MOTIVATED:

First of all, it’s okay to be feeling this way, remember that you’re only human and you’re not alone. Sending you a big virtual hug! Here are 5 things to try.

1. Create an energising morning routine- Take 3 deep breaths as soon as you wake up, SMILE, stretch your arms, make your bed and think about how today is going to be full of love and opportunities! (do not go on your phone straight away- you might unconsciously bring your mood down if you see something negative first thing in the morning)

2. Write out your goals for the day- Start with 3 small attainable goals to avoid overwhelming yourself. Break them down step by step if needed, eg. If you struggle with finding motivation to go for a walk. Start with a 10-minute walk. Chances are you’ll feel great once you start doing it, so you’ll want to continue.

3. Focus on things you can control- Absorb positive energy by listening to inspiring podcasts, watching uplifting videos and reading books about wellness and living a happy life. Unfollow people and avoid things that don’t elevate you.

4. Seek support- Release your emotions and allow them to pass through instead of bottling them up inside. Talk about how you’re feeling and think ‘what is something I can do right now to improve my situation and move forward?’ There’s always something you can do to get closer to what you want. 

5. Romanticise your life- Get dressed up for no reason. Style your hair in a fun way so when you look at yourself in the mirror you can’t help but smile. Listen to your favourite album while twirling around in the garden. Control the soundtrack to your life! Bring out that tea set that you’ve been saving and use it! Cuddle your loved ones. Fill your day with as much joy as possible! That’s what life is about.

With Love, Mish xo